Decision Vs. Choice


I am trying to decide…to stay as a commission based Loan Officer…or stay with a recent job as an hourly paid Loan Agent. My family needs stable income at this time. The hourly position brings that, but they want me to work 12+ hours per day - some of those off the clock. It's creating a lot of pressure on my husband and kids, 15 and 13… or seek a position as a Loan Officer that offers a base salary plus bonuses…what should I do?


Obviously I won't tell you what you should do. All I can offer is a new perspective that would possibly empower you in this process.

I'd like to make a distinction between "decision" and "choice".

The word "decide" comes from the same root as "homicide", "suicide" and "genocide"… not a fun group to be a part of…

It literally means "killing off" or "cutting off" the other option. Let's say you're driving, and you get to a T-junction. Your options are either right or left. You think about it, or consult your GPS, and then you kill off one of the option. You decide to make a right.

Life is usually not as clear or clean. Even if we sometimes feel like our options are limited, it is mostly an illusion generated by our own limiting beliefs.

"Choice" on the other hand represents something completely different. It represents freedom and power - the freedom and power that is our birthright, the freedom and power that gives human beings the ability to create their lives as they see fit.

I'll finish with a quote from the movie "300":

King Leonidas: Then what must a king do to save his world when the very laws he has sworn to protect force him to do nothing?
Queen Gorgo: It is not a question of what a Spartan citizen should do, nor a husband, nor a king. Instead, ask yourself, my dearest love, what should a free man do?

Good luck!

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